I get what it is like to WANT to be close to someone, but having absolutely no idea how to do that without getting freaked out. I tried to make her jealous the last time that we were together, mentioning going to USA for Spring Break and that im going to date reguarly now we have broken up. That's exacly my situation. The point is though that you should wait to let her contact you for sure, no questions. I agree with the working out, I am a fit girl and I am starting to try to get into a routine to help with my self esteem and feel good about myself again, I need to learn how to do that for me and you should too. That feeling haunted me through a life-threatening drug addiction, into a life of recovery, and sometimes still does. Why should you be his fall back? Like I said we haven't spoken in 3 weeks, now I feel like sending her one last facebook message (even if she deleted me) telling her how much I love, how sorry I am for hurting her, and how I want to spend my life with her... but at the same time respect her 100% if she needs time to heal... What do you guys think? Many couldn't even see or touch the person for the last time. I really want to delve into this thread...would you mind if I took about fifteen minutes or so to get up to speed on the various posts on this thread? I did the same as you, i told her i loved her and made my feelings clear, poured my heart out to her. I will give my input at my earliest convenience. What I want in life is her and would do anything for that woman. If she doesn't then you're on your way to slowly recovering. How I wish I had a time machine to fix things. But I won't! Do you think i have done enough to let her know how i feel, and is a freeze out the best way forward. 1.) Let her feel attracted to you again and want it and she will naturally come back to you. In her mind she is going around thinking, “My god, that a$$ hole can never commit. 2. You have to make those things your priorities. Maybe just give yourself half an hour or an hour to have a mope and a think about it. you weren't ready to commit and you didn't give the relationship the time you needed to Guess what - i lost all the weight i'd spent a while and put a lot of hard work into putting on and then some more on top of that. As for the length of time you wait before you contact her - that depends on how long it takes her to contact you. It was just where my friends were heading that night. He … I understand how difficult it must be for you right now, replaying all of the different "what if" scenarios in your head. I am going through the same thing right now only my boyfriend is the one who is having the life problems, I don't know what to do, he is my first love and I miss him so much, I have always wanted what we had and now it is gone, he gives me hope that it will be back but he doesn't know how long it will take him. Do guys come back to you when they're ready? Or, text and ask how she's doing from time to time. I did and would have done anything for her, i didn't deserve that treatment and i wish i hadn't put up with it. It's ok to have a bit of a mope every now and again i reckon, but don't let it dominate your day to the extent that you aren't doing what you need to get done. At least if doing some moping meant no moping the next day you could probably argue the case for moping. :/. But when that person says they might be back it's leaving you hanging on waiting around and you don't feel like you're able to move on. I could just tell by the look in her eyes she didn't feel the same anymore. The only thing that has now improved my attitude slightly is that i went for a crazy burst on the rowing machine down the gym, although that did seem to give me some sort of disturbind tracheal spasm?! You've gotta do the same. I couldn’t shake the feeling that I had made a mistake that I had to pay for. This doesn't mean putting your life on hold, but let her know that there is always room in your heart for her if she wishes to come back. 27. You need her to think you're ok without her. But I try to stay strong, even If I have my moments of weakness and still cry about it. Raising her voice, Aimee said "Now it's your career, before it was your mother's health, before that you weren't ready. I offered to go down to stay with her for a couple of weeks (well not at her house, but at a hotel) to spend some decent time with her and enable us to do some stuff together without there being any pressure as we'd be able to relax and take our time. I think it's much fairer to say either "i want to be with you" or "i don't want to be with you". Yet, I am no less confused and still do not know if I want to commit to her as a partner, or just as a friend, or if it’s best to just leave it alone and not attempt to reconnect. I think that's all the encouragment you perhaps need at the mo? I was thrilled when the medical community told me six years ago that I could change from a woman to a man. do you ever see them? For the last year i have had so much on with my career and life i neglected her and pushed her away, over and over again. That is what is killing me and causing all my anxiety. Can you believe that? Tell her of your triumphs over your trauma, validate that she has been hurt and that you acknowledge that and have worked on correcting issues that your past trauma has caused you- until then, just love yourself friend. I even have trouble concentrating at school and it's my last semester before getting my bachelors degree. I am going to continue to push myself to stay occupied and not have any contact, our friends are doing a really good job of keeping both of us occupied apart from one another (I think more so me than him because none of them think he made the right choice). I don't think anyone is immune from that no matter how much of a "man" you try to be. Logically there must surely be at least a few other people out there who we would be just as happy with and maybe even more so, even if it doesn't seem believable at the mo. Anyway, so guys you are not alone in continuing to go through this hell, i thought it might be comforting to know i'm still getting it really bad at times, really really bad. I totally agree with what you are saying, I deserve someone who respects and loves me as much as I do them, and I don't doubt that my Adam isn't capable of it. Attention Ladies: A baby doesn't make a man commit. You cannot love anyone full until you love yourself. Explore 9GAG for the most popular memes, breaking stories, awesome GIFs, and viral videos on the internet! Thanks downbeat, It really helps! He could have known this little girl when she was just a kid. That was a real good moping session eh? What do you do in your free time? Go ahead and if you're seeing her (face to face is best) or in a personal letter if there in NC, and let her know what you've just articulated: If she does then it's a bonus (if you still want her) and you can work it from there. And when you do and you can look back and think well that **** me up, but at least i didn't mess up my degree then you'll feel good about it. It'll maybe be a bit of a living hell for you wondering if/when she's gonna contact you, but i'm afraid you'll just have to put up with it til it starts to ease. Since I ahve barely been going and eating. Your ex sounds to be playing with your mind at the moment and i don't think it's very fair at all on you. Then slowly but surely i started eating again. This devasted me. So instead of not saying a straight "no" she replied with a long text that said at the end "...but i hope we can be friends" which i then sent a reply about why i didn't want to be friends with her as i felt like she'd betrayed me, followed by a conversation which actually wasn't too bad, but ended up with her crying saying to me "we can be friends if you want us to be", but i explained i couldn't as i needed to get past this now and that i didn't want to be hearing stuff about her as it would hurt me. At first I was neutral towards her, but as time passed we got closer. The last time i saw her was actually about 4 1/2 months ago, but we broke up 7 months ago. Try to keep yourself together, i know it's seriously tough, but you have to do it. I still have my break down moments too, and I try to keep them to myself and to a minimum. Like i said before, get on with your life and aim to be happy on your own (or maybe eventually with someone else), and if she comes back it's just a bonus. Digg is the homepage of the internet, featuring the best articles, videos, and original content that the web is talking about right now. Im in a different place now and not the same person i was before. I will do my best to stay strong and not contact her. It absolutely kills me to think this, thinking about all the stuff you were looking forward to doing and that now it'll never happen. Initially you'll find this missing (grief) comes in waves. She was goi... Me And My Girlfriend Still Love Each Other But She's Not Ready For A Relationship ? Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. This is the inner confidence that I talk about a lot! I even had to leave work early today by taking some lieu time cos i was so physically and emotionally shattered. I figure I'm the one who didn't listen and didn't support her the way I should have in our relationship so, in this case, I'm the one who as to reach out to her... Wasn't ready to commit and lost her. Not some depressed, needy, out of shape man. *Remember, your relationship ended because you didn't listen or support her the way she needed you to. Have fun and when you aren't looking for it, love will come. You just don't want to commit." Eventually even if she doesn't come back you'll find someone else won't you, you might not think it now, but the chances are very good that you will. I just hope she won't start dating anyone else in the meantime. I now think i'm a perfectly decent, honest hard-working guy, why did i bother setting myself up for all those rejections? Look to prove my point, a few months after my ex split with me she made out we maybe could have got back together but because i kept trying to convince her she said "you didn't give me a chance to miss you" Ok so that's proof enough isn't it? At the end of what would have been my first weekend down there with her, her "friend" came up to visit her. I stayed in bed doing nothing for a good 4-5 weeks and trust me it gets your absolutely no where. The way i look at it now is don't talk to her and then i ain't gonna be going back to not wanting to eat and then not wanting to go down the gym. So I guess, I'll keep respecting her and giving her all the space she wants. Her email: Hi Jane, I love, love, love your blog and am so grateful that I ha Sign He Won’t Commit #7: It Will Always Be About the Sex You should know this: men commit to women when they want more than just sex from a relationship . So take it from me the best thing to do for you is to continue to not be in touch with her. I'm Afraid My 7 years Relationship Ruined Because My Family Said I'm Not Ready For Marriage. I lost a bunch of weight! Right now, she is where you were---not ready to be here with you right now the way you want her to be. I love you, but I'm not ready for a relationship? I'm not ready for a relationship right now...Let's be friends. Going crazy and would do anything. If she asks how are you? Just keep at it. 3.) I was respectful to her, i was always loving when i saw her, but maybe took her for granted a bit. Do I end my 9 year relationship or am I just crazy? Suicide has been part of my identity ever since puberty — probably when I developed major depressive disorder, which wouldn’t be diagnosed and treated for another five years. We'd very rarely had chance to spend so much time together as that so i booked the time off work and asked her in a really nice email. We have gone through some pretty bad times together, but are happier than ever now. I regret all of that last period of contact though, totally regret it. It's only slowly, you won't even notice it, but it does happen very very slowly. Alas, it is not going to happen. I really feel that she has changed this time and is tired of the emotional pain of me pushing her away. I truly hope that with time she will realize that I am now different man than when I was 22 and ready for her. If you wanna mope for a bit after you've got all that sorted for the day then do that. My boyfriend of 4 years decided that he wasn't happy in our ... GF decided to end relationship about a month ago. If she is talking to you and visiting with you, she is in your life and she cares. Then i went to gym again. Work and focus on YOU and once you’ve healed more and are able to balance your past trauma with current relationships, reach out again. But no, she came to my house 15min later, apologizing, telling me how she made a mistake and that everything will be okay, she will stay with me. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship, then he dumped me and got a girlfriend. As i did this, she drew away and has been quite distant for the last two months. I've been reading all your posts with interest. I thank you jayspop. We know and understand your pain. He says he isnt ready for a relationship with anyone. I just want to know about this text message. p.s I saw him at work (we are both lifeguards and swimming instructors at one of the city pools) and he looked like ****, and people at work guessed because of his over happiness, and then he looks so sad when no one is around. I really like those words. I really don't know what to do anymore. Boyfriend broke up with me because he wasn't ready for commitment. Don't say "lets be friends," but leave room for communication in the future, like "would it be alright if i call you next week? You've done well not to have any contact with her for 3 weeks. If you saw your future with someone you'd want to be with them now wouldn't you, you wouldn't say oh well we'll see later on, i'm not sure what i think at the moment. I wish now i just hadn't even bothered asking her and then just let her contact me if she wanted to see me. Firstly though, i'll apologise if it's a bit garbled and mixed up - i've had such a **** couple of days these 2 days. I dunno if she'll come back, maybe she will, maybe she won't. Then the person can move on as i am now able to do. Thanks so much for the encouragement, I hear what you are both saying. Everytime i contacted her i didn't get told what i wanted to hear, i'd heard her voice, i thought of her more and i went back to square one being miserable. It’s … You are not alone in this. Gf broke up with me because she wasnt ready for a relationship, some insight? I'm just going to be as straightforward as possible. No i don't ever see her, she lives a long way away (that was the main problem in why our relationship broke down). And it certaintly won't help you get him back. And keep some little hope. Don't apologize or plead but do be sincere about your desire to better yourself beginning now (DO NOT say "I'm totally changed." Maybe if we go back to chatting we can find common ground. I broke things off but that wasn't the end. She listened but told me that she wanted to move on and wanted to stop talking because, if we did, she wouldn't be able to. Anyway, what's done is done, it's too late now. I was seeing my ex for 2.5 years aswell. It seems to me he's keeping you there at arms length so that he can go off and play around with other girls til his heart's content and then if he gets bored or realises he's made a mistake then he knows you're there. It's got to me so much so that i ended up privately shedding a few tears two or three times. So she basically ended the relationship stating that she waited long enough for me to change, and I didn't. I'm sorry to hear about your situation, it sounds like you're also have a really hard time of it right now. Sometimes women need to know for certain without A DOUBT that things won't repeat. She was literally deciding between me and him for a week until I couldn't take it anymore and lost my shit and dumped her. So keep up the good work, don't be contacting her. Be her friend and allow her to express herself openly with you, and in time she may come to warm up to the idea of taking another swing at things. Yeah, I used to go to the gym 3-4 times a week before the break up. After the meal we had, she text me saying "Thanks so much for the meal, i know you'll do well". So we don’t put the dating tag on it until we get all that out of our system. This forum helps me! During our relationship, I was afraid to make a big commitment to her and she often told me that I needed to prioritize her in my life. It is definitely your responsibility for sure, but you aren't at fault for your trauma. Guys im in the exact same predicament and am going crazy, so advice would really mean a lot. She won't think it's rude or anything, it won't affect your chances of a reconcilliation. This will explain it best. My ex is abusing me psychologicaly! I couldn’t forgive myself for the role I’d played in Denise’s death: Not only did I fail to save her, but I’m fairly certain I gave her the idea. You are just feeling the loss. I will never date him again.” It probably isn’t going to help your case any if you stop by her and say, Hey baby, I’m different now. Cos you don't wanna be looking back on this in a couple of years and think "i messed up those exams cos of thinking about her i'm still paying the price with this **** job". Ive lost the will to live simply because i poured my heart into something just to have it taken away from me. I really needed the encouragement, it will help keep me going. Help! The point is that everyone, no matter how bright and shiny their lives may look on the outside, struggles with these issues. So you've done that now and she knows ok, so i really don't think you need to tell her again by messaging her on FB, particularly as she's deleted you for some reason. Let yourself imagine for a moment a scenario where you watched a sappy romance movie or heard your friend kissing butt to his GF. I will do my best to stay strong and not contact her. Either way we all have to work towards what we want or who we want in life and not only so but treat that person with 1000%, take it easy life is precious. I think she understood. Yep, you're right, you must try to avoid moping. I was going to go live with her at that point, but she didn't want me to. Downbeat is right, Jeh89. He was until a little while ago where he started taking us and me for granted, he has told me that he isn't in the right state right now to give me what I deserve, which makes me happy that he knows that. And that's not what you want to be is it. We met up last week and i explained to her at which point i started to love her, why i was different before and that i had grown up and now was in a good place. He said he was conflicted and couldn’t leave her. Stop paying attention to what everyone else is doing. I never got to know her, just acted like an idiot. Hey Guys, My ex broke up with me and I would die from a call from him-not that I would take him back. However, that doesn't mean that she is ready to date you again. Put on a funny movie or something like that. I know how tough it is, i totally empahize with you. He broke up because he wasn't ready for the next stage in life, I'm his girlfriend but he is not ready to commit. help, By entering this site you declare This is your future here, she might not be in it, but you need to pass all those exams to ensure you can get by and get the job you want in future. God, I still love her. Had an affair with her when she was eleven. Now i never hear her voice which is **** cos i love to hear it, but at least i'm not getting set back hearing yet another knock back. I know it's tough to function properly, but you have to at the very least make yourself get through your studies. Do you think i should just not contact her, get on with my life and see if she contacts me? But now you're still moping, so that can't have helped. He still won't tell me that he doesn't want to be with me, which is also a plus. Girlfriend broke up with because I wasn't ready to commit on a deeper level. Having said that i am being slightly hypercritical here after i've just told you i've had to leave work early (but i had at least done my work that needed to be done for the day first). I was with a girl for 3 years. I feel like I love her, I don't want to lose her, but I don't know what I can offer her." Since we met up a week ago and ended there has been no contact from either of us. It's just so hard to live knowing that you lost a girl you truly truly loved, but was not ready in your life to commit to her. This guy really likes me But not ready to commit. As i havent replied to her text, will that make me look like im purposely freezing her out? But please note that first loves, you guys really lasted through some tough years when many people are struggling just to find themselves let alone one another. Guess how much it affects you? Sorry to hear about your situation. I then spent 6 months trying to get her back to no avail. But at the same time, even if I told again and again how much I love her and want to commit to her, I feel like I need to tell her again. Work's been terrible, i've barely slept (5 hours the last 3 nights, waking up at 5am every one of those), and i haven't been able to get her off my mind as much as i have tried. I wrote " I feel so alone..." in the getting back section. Don't try to conjour up any reasons why you need to contact her cos you don't need to. Long story short, I have a minor issue with alcohol, where I lose… It wasnt in a bad way i said it, we were just chatting and i said that was the easiest way for me to get over it. Think like she's not coming back. A guy might not commit to a girl because he has built a mountain of wealth and he doesn’t love her enough to bring her along for the ride. I can. You just have to accept it's gonna feel **** for maybe quite a while, but trust me it will improve. Since the break up I have told her how much I loved her, how I wanted to commit to her and all that. But it dosen't mean that I didn't love her, and I will always treated her with the outmost respect, care and love. In your case it's come at a really bad time with all your studying, but you have to do this for yourself cos nobody else is going to do it for you. Don't feel bad or guilty for moping though, it's natural, but try to keep yourself busy because like i said before, you have to do the stuff you need to get done. She stood by my during those 2.5 years and use to tell me how she knew I could just be the best boyfriend ever. They're your priorities ok. You see for me, I think this has become slightly easier because, even though it's not gone the way i wanted it to, at least i'm 99.9% sure she's not going to be coming back. Her mother could’ve been a terrific parent and I’d be putting that relationship in jeopardy. Even up to a few weeks ago we were still talking about being together, going on holiday etc but we argued a bit, i acted like an idiot and she broke it off. Our beautiful friend Sarah left her boyfriend of 5 years because he just wouldn't commit to her. I wouldn't worry what she'll think if you don't reply. Keep up the avoidance of contact as it is no help. I still wake up in the morning really early thinking about her, it's normal, just don't worry about it. Oh and i suggested us going off for a break together, a week in the sun so we could relax and try to have a bit of time for us to work things out a bit. There'll be plenty of other guys out there for you eventually. All I can advise today is to not spend time making her jealous or playing games to see where her affections lie. We mostly have a very open relationship, where we can talk to each other about many things. Need help with your relationship? my ex tells me he doesnt want to get back together but he tries to talk to me often and gets upset because he thinks i dont want to talk to him. If she rings you then just talk for a little while, be pleasant, don't talk about what happened before, focus on the present, but let her come to you. She already knows so it's not going to be to your advantage to tell her again. 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